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Which Toys Are for My Body?
Beyond P & V
Best Basic Vibrator
Maude Drop
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Best Suction Toy for Most People
Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 Air Pulse Toy
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Best Luxury Suction Toy
Lelo Sona 2 Cruise
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Sex tech has come a long way in the past 10 years—not only in terms of cultural acceptance and awareness, but also technology. Gone are the days of clunky, pink plastic rabbit vibrators and sex toys that feel like knockoff action figures. Today’s toys are designed by sex educators, medical professionals, and some of the world’s greatest sexperts. They feature ultra-premium, surgical-grade silicone, robust Bluetooth connectivity, programmable vibration patterns, and multiple motors all designed to help you have a good time.
There’s never a bad time to invest in a little extra self-care. These are some of our favorite sex toys, vibrators, smart vibrators, personal wand massagers, and accessories, all of which we’ve personally tested. There’s something here for everyone, every gender, and every body. The language on these products isn’t always gender-inclusive, but we approached testing with a gender-inclusive mindset, testing these with a variety of different genitals, bodies, and partners.
Still don’t see anything you like? Be sure to check out our other bedroom-related guides on the Best Sounds for Sleep, the Best Mattresses, and the Best Sound Machines.
Updated May 2023: We added the Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 and updated links and prices.
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Which Toys Are for My Body?
Beyond P & V
The sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but that’s reductive, inaccurate, and contributes to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. It’s unhelpful and I have a lot of feelings about it.
To that end, we opt to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones—and there are way more than just P and V.
The vulva is the exterior part of the vagina. It includes the labia majora, labia minora, the urethra, and the clitoris. The clitoris is the center of erogenous nerves in the vulva, and it’s actually much larger than just the exterior portion. Its internal structures extend down to either side of the vagina, which is where you’ll find the G-spot—the area stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
The phallus is what’s commonly referred to as the shaft of the penis, and it includes a couple different erogenous zones. The glans is the top of the phallus, usually referred to as the “head,” and the frenulum is a thin strip of connective tissue on the underside of the glans that can be particularly sensitive to targeted stimulation. Last but not least, the anus is, well … it’s the butthole. The rectum is the interior portion that attaches to the anus. Both of these areas can be sensitive to internal and external stimulation.
For people assigned male at birth, there’s an additional erogenous zone here: the prostate or P-spot. This is a walnut-sized gland that lives between the internal structures of the penis and the rectum, and it can be reached by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
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Photograph: Maude
Best Basic Vibrator
Maude Drop
This tiny little vibrator packs a punch. It might be the most intense palm-sized vibrator we’ve ever tested. It has only three intensity settings, which is fewer than most toys on this list, but for the Maude Drop, it’s about quality over quantity. Each of its levels provides deep stimulating vibrations, but if you’re particularly sensitive you may want to be careful with the highest setting. It’s rumbly, powerful, and fast, which can be a nice way to end a session of solo use. It’s a great vibrator if you’re looking for something simple, discreet, and approachable.
Great for all genitals
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Photograph: Satisfyer
Best Suction Toy for Most People
Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 Air Pulse Toy
The Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 lives up to its name. It’s versatile, powerful, and surprisingly gentle. The whole body of the Gen 3 is covered in soft silicone, so it’s easier to grip than previous versions. The buttons are all conveniently located along the back of the toy, right about where your fingertips naturally fall.
It’s a refined version of a tried and true design, and it definitely feels like it. There’s a level of care and craftsmanship in the design and build of this toy that I really appreciate. The mouth is removable so you can wash it or swap it with the new “liquid air” mouth—it simulates a tapping sensation more than a sucking or air pulse sensation, which is a fun change of pace.
The Gen 3 also features built-in vibration functionality. The third button on the toy cycles through vibration patterns that can heighten things when you’re in the thick of it.
Great for all genitals
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Photograph: Lelo
Best Luxury Suction Toy
Lelo Sona 2 Cruise
Suction toys are life-changing if you’ve never used one before, and after testing dozens of them, I can say with certainty that the Sona 2 Cruise is the absolute best high-end suction toy on the market. It’s one I kept reaching for even outside of testing hours. The body fits in my hand perfectly, the buttons are in places that make sense, and it has a variety of intensities well-suited to just about any preference.
The cruise part of the name refers to Lelo’s Cruise Control technology–which makes the toy ramp up intensity when you press it hard against your body. It’s a smart sex toy, and it’s my number one recommendation for anyone looking to try something new.
Good for all bodies, targeted suction stimulation for the clitoris, frenulum, or nipples